If you’ve struggled with health, you’ve likely worked hard to keep your mindset straight that healing is even still possible. I did. I was newly married, sitting on the stairs leading up to the 2nd floor of our then bungalow home, and incredibly sad. The room at the top of the stairs was for our baby. Except we had no baby. Instead, we had multiple losses – miscarriages. I felt like a mess, with little hope life would work out my way – holding a child to love.
If you’re fighting to keep your head above water on your healing journey, I got you. Within every mess is a message. After reading this post, you’ll gain three ways to uncover the message within your health mess and truly heal.
BE VULNERABLE
Sitting on those stairs leading up to the baby’s room, one of my high school besties, Blair, called me on the phone. “I’m sad,” I said. We had recently heard that our mutual best friend was pregnant with her second child. “What kind of sad?” she replied. “Like…you have a bottle of vodka in your hand, sad? Or devouring chocolate, sad? Or, …” I can’t remember the other sad scenarios she gave me, but it made me laugh, and I instantly felt heard and understood.
It’s common for people to isolate themselves when experiencing difficulty in life. As a newlywed struck with multiple miscarriages, I know that that was my go-to response. Just keep it all in. “I’ll figure this out.” But, healing doesn’t happen alone. We heal together – through vulnerability. I witnessed such healing two decades later as a guest speaker for an infertility group. As we shared our personal stories, we magnified gratitude for being in this together – lessening the burden each of us carried from lack and loss.
“Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. If we want greater clarity…vulnerability is the path.” – Brené Brown
BE CURIOUS
You may have heard of my friend Blair or seen the documentary “Introducing, Selma Blair,” which documents her journey living with MS as a woman, mother, and actress. Recognized for its exceptional intimacy in storytelling, you rarely see such vulnerability on screen. And as you can see 12 seconds into the trailer, she’s hilarious! When her doctor said, ‘Your life will forever be different.’ Selma replied, ‘Well, thank God.’ I can hear her voice, and that still makes me laugh today.
After my fourth miscarriage (a second-trimester loss), I had to elevate myself above the dark cloud I was standing under. I had to find a higher meaning for my deep sorrow – my dis-ease. My quest started on a run with me yelling at God: Why is this happening TO me!?! So much stacked hurt, and anger poured out of me onto the pavement. But over the years, instead of projecting out my pain, I leaned into it. I got curious about what it had to say and heard the truth: this “mess” is happening FOR you. It’s a gift wrapped in a challenging package, growing you to become more loving, empathetic, and grateful. Expansively healing you to serve others.
With a quiet mind, you’ll be amazed at what Divine messages you’ll sense. You’ll see them, you’ll hear them, you’ll feel them, and with certainty, you’ll know them. If you’re curious how I quiet my mind for clarity, check out Step 5 from my FREE Vibrant Health Guide.
With a quiet mind, you’ll be amazed at what Divine messages you’ll sense. You’ll see them, you’ll hear them, you’ll feel them, and with certainty, you’ll know them.
BE FAITH-FILLED
We all want more certainty in life – to know we won’t be too uncomfortable on this journey. Healing can be painful – mending you anew. It’s pulling, it’s stretching, and sometimes totally out of control. Messy and, at times, a darn right sh*t show. And yet, somehow, even when we’re not getting what we want – what we expect – we’re supposed to fill ourselves with more faith? Appreciate that life is unfolding perfectly for us. Really?!? Yes. Truly.
Faith is an absolute certainty. A knowing – without questioning, without doubting, without controlling. ‘Cause isn’t that what we want most? Control – to control the outcome to meet our expectations of healing. Of course. Most of us just want our dis-ease to go away. We want less pain, more pleasure. Less discomfort, more comfort. But what if we could hold a greater vision for ourselves? Trusting through the pain and discomfort – with absolute certainty – we are healing. Healing in Divine time (not my time.) Healing that’s working out perfectly for all (not just me.) Allowing healing to unfold. What would that kind of surrender unleash? Likely, the most fulfilling life ever!
As one writer put it so eloquently, “For Blair, an MS diagnosis wasn’t a bad thing. It was an answer and one that would lead the star to take the role of a lifetime: herself.” If you’re game to truly heal, hold onto your hat, sista! All you need is curiosity, vulnerability, and a whole lot of faith. I mean, how hard can that be?!? LOL. Luckily, we are in this together. As you heal, you heal others. Just like Blair and me – you become an angel in someone’s life, and they become an angel in yours. And together, you heal.
#WeAreInThisTogether for #HealthyChange
P.S. Check out these four easy ways for you to tap into your heart smarts and relax into healing. Plus, knowing these can help you make better decisions in life – which, as you know, often feels chaotic and complex.
About the Author: Dr. Sue
Sue McCreadie, MD (aka Dr. Sue), is a Pediatric Physician and Breakthrough Coach for Midlife Mamas. For over two decades, she’s helped thousands achieve vibrant health as a wellness expert. Bringing three daughters into this world, she lost four along the way, and crossed the pregnancy finish line a digestive–hormonal–emotional mess. But, over the following decade, she found a deeper meaning for miscarriages, reclaimed vibrant health, and grew emotional resiliency. Dr. Sue is obsessed with living her soulFULL purpose and helping other growth-minded Mamas do the same. She believes we are in this together to rise up, realize our dreams, and feel fulfilled in every facet of our lives.